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The church would like like to express our best wishes to you and
your fiancee as you plan your Wedding. It is always a pleasure to
see new beginnings commence in union in our Church. At this time
we thought it would be helpful to inform you of the obligatory fees
to the Community.
Wedding Fees:
$200 for the service fee and both the family and the Koumbari each
pay a membership fee of $75 each totalling a maximum of $350.
The wedding ceremony of the Greek Orthodox Church is an ancient
and meaningful service that has been celebrated in its present form
for centuries. The service is abundant with symbols that reflect
marriage: love, mutual respect, equality and sacrifice.
The ceremony consists of two parts which are distinct and separate
from each other: The service of the Betrothal and the Ceremony
of the Sacrament of Marriage. Everything in the ceremony has
a special meaning and significance, especially the repetition of
each act three times to symbolize and to invoke the mystical presence
of the Holy Trinity. The Wedding begins as the white candles are
handed to The Bride and The Groom. These candles symbolize their
spiritual willingness to receive Christ.
The Service of Betrothal
Petitions are chanted for the spiritual welfare of the couple. The
highlight during this service is the exchanging of the rings. The
priest then blesses the rings. He holds them in his right hand,
and making the sign of the cross over their heads, he betroths the
servants of God, The Bride to The Groom. The rings are then placed
on their right hands, for it is the right hand of God that blesses,
it was the right hand of God to which Christ ascended, and it is
also to the right that those who will inherit the eternal life will
ascend.
The koumbaro (religious sponsor) then exchanges the rings three
times. The exchange signifies that in married life, the weakness
of one partner will be compensated by the strength of the other,
the imperfections of one, by the perfection of the other. By themselves,
the newly betrothed are incomplete, but together they are made perfect.
The rite of the betrothal ends with the priest praying for betrothal
of mutual promise, officially given before the church, may prove
in true faith, concord and love.
The Ceremony of the Sacrament of Marriage
The ceremony consists of petitions, prayers, the crowning, readings
from the New Testament, the offering of the common cup, the circling
of the ceremonial table and the benediction. At the conclusion of
the prayers, the priest joins the hands of The Bride and The Groom.
The hands are kept joined until the end of the service to symbolize
the union and the oneness of the couple.
The Crowning
This is the focal point of the marriage ceremony. The crowns are
signs of the glory and honor with which God crowns them during the
sacrament. The wedding crowns (stefana) are joined by a ribbon which
again symbolizes the unity of the couple and the presence of Christ
who blesses and joins the couple and establishes them as the King
and Queen of their home, which they will rule with wisdom, justice
and integrity. The priest takes the two crowns and blesses The Bride
and The Groom, in the name of the Father, and the Son, and of the
Holy Spirit and then places the crowns on them. The Koumbaro then
steps behind The Bride and The Groom and interchanges the crowns
three times as a witness to the sealing of the union.
Some interpret the crowns used in the Orthodox wedding ceremony
to refer to the crowns of Martyrdom since every true marriage involves
immeasurable self sacrifice on both sides.
The Common Cup
The rite of crowning is followed by the reading of the Epistle and
the Gospel. The Gospel reading describes the marriage at Cana of
Galilee which was attended and blessed by Christ and for which He
reserved His first miracle. There He converted the water into wine
and gave if it to the newlyweds. In remembrance of this blessing,
wine is given the couple. This is the "common cup" of life denoting
the mutual sharing of joy and sorrow, the token of a life of harmony.
The drinking of wine from the common cup serves to impress upon
the couple that from that moment on they will share everything in
life, joys, as well as sorrows, and that they are to "bear one another's
burdens." Their joys will be doubled and their sorrows halved because
they will be shared.
The Ceremonial Walk
The priest then leads The Bride and The Groom in a circle around
the table on which are placed the Gospel and the Cross, the one
containing the word of God, the other being the symbol of our redemption
by Jesus. The Bride and The Groom are taking their first steps as
a married couple, and the church, in the person of the priest, leads
them in the way they must walk. The way is symbolized by the circle
at the center of which are the Gospel and the cross of our Lord.
This expresses the fact that the way of Christian living is a perfect
orbit around the center of life, who is Jesus Christ our Lord.
During this ceremonial walk around the table a hymn is sung to the
Holy Martyrs reminding the newly married couple of the sacrificial
love they are to have for each other in marriage - a love that seeks
not its own but is willing to sacrifice its all for the one loved.
The Removal of the Crowns
At the conclusion of the Ceremonial Walk, the priest removes the
crowns from The Bride and The Groom and beseeches God to grant to
the newlyweds a long, happy and fruitful life together. He then
lifts up the Gospel and separates their joined hands reminding them
that only God can separate the couple form one another.
The Wedding Favors
The sugar coated almonds (koufeta), which were placed on the tray
with the crowns and which will later be offered to the guests are
also symbolic. In the early days of the Church, honey dipped almonds
were offered to the newlyweds by the priest. The white symbolizes
purity. The egg shape represents fertility and the new life which
begins with marriage. The hardness of the almond represents the
endurance of marriage and the sweetness of the sugar symbolizes
the sweetness of future life. The odd number of almond is indivisible,
just as The Bride and The Groom shall remain undivided.
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